Saturday, December 17, 2011

Festivus

Okay, first of all, I am a failure with my blogging of late.  I'll not make too many apologies, but I should record -- for posterity -- that my last month has been spent editing my novel (due to be published in the spring), and re-editing my novel, teaching, grading, grading, mothering, and grading. Somewhere in the midst of that there were Christmas parties, piano lessons, basketball games, cub scout meetings, a Christmas musical, and I THINK (though don't quote me on this) that I may have cooked some suppers and washed a few loads of laundry and maybe even hung out with my husband once or twice. 

ANYHOOOOO... 

Today begins the FESTIVUS (that would be a Seinfeld reference for those of you who are younger than 15 years of age).  For 2011, The Bishop clan has forgone the normal trappings of Christmas (I did not even put up a tree!), and we are going on the most magical journey together.

Tonight I write from Albany, Georgia, where my family is holed up in a Courtyard by Marriott. 
Tomorrow we journey onward to ... yes, you guessed it...

ORLANDO...FLORIDA... (that would be Disneyworld, for those of you who are actually from Florida and might assume other people would visit for any other reason).

The boys have been counting down the days for months. When we actually got into the car this morning to begin our drive, I think we all had a sense of "Really?  Is this really happening?"  I was also doing the frantic mental checklist of "Did I turn off the..." and Mike was just kind of thinking, "I would rather be going just about anywhere but the most crowded place on earth." :-)

The boys were great travelers today, though my Alec-gater is feeling a bit under the weather tonight. I think he's officially caught the cold I had last week. Hoping he can get a good night's sleep and feel perkier tomorrow.

Tomorrow night we will attend Mickey's Christmas Party, so that will be our first official Disney activity.  We're excited!  Really, really, I am very excited to get this party started!

Until the next Festivus post...

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

good Fellas

My good fellas.  I took the boys home a couple of weeks ago over their fall break.  My brother was able to join us in Wynnewood for a couple of those days.  Those little boys sure do love their Uncle Bo.  I think he competes pretty closely with Poppa Jim, which is saying quite a lot.

My boys think going to Wynnewood, Oklahoma, population small, is pretty amazing.  I never thought of Wynnewood as any sort of AMAZING place when I was a kid.  It was just home.  It still is home for me.  I guess that it doesn't matter so much that I've lived as much of my life outside of Wynnewood as I have in that town.  Home is home.  It was good to be home with my fellas.  We were only missing Mike.
Alec and Zach, October 2011
My guys with Uncle Bo at a Wynnewood football game.
 
My guys hanging out in the Sheriff's car at the football game when they got a bit too cold. 
It sure is nice to have connections!  The boys got extremely excited when they heard
the dispatcher's voice over the radio.

Fishing with Pop.  It was not a good day for catching, but we enjoyed dropping in our lines.

My good fellas.  Love 'em.

Thursday, October 27, 2011

Family Ties


My sisters and me.
A few weeks ago, I joined my sisters for our annual "Sissy Weekend."  These girls aren't sisters by blood, but they certainly are sisters-in-heart.  Sara and I were suitemates during our freshman year at Harding.  I played softball with Cara during that same year.  For our sophomore year, Sara and I were roommates and Cara was our suitemate.  Sometime during our sophomore year, I looked up and discovered this girl named Maria hanging out in my room.  She was from Philly and had this crazy accent.  We adopted her and soon-thereafter she moved into our suite.  My life would not be the same without these three friends.

Cara married Kent Jobe (a boy I dated once or twice at Harding).  Kent is a preacher at a church in El Dorado, Arkansas.  Cara is an elementary school teacher.  They have three gorgeous children.  Derek is the same age as my Zach.  Austin is a couple years younger, and Brylee is their baby sister.  The Jobes are scholar-athletes, and all of the kids are very active in sports while also being super smart.

Sara married Jim Miller (a boy Cara dated once or twice at Harding).  Jim is a professor at Harding.  Sara is a part-time professor there as well.  They have two beautiful children.  Laura, a pretty little girl who loves to dance, is the same age as my Alec.  Grant is three and is all-boy.  Sara and Jim and the kids will be taking a Harding University group to Italy in the spring (Hellooooo. Jealous.).  Sara will teach and will also homeschool Laura while they are there.  I would LOVE to join them for that semester, but alas, I have the much more glamorous job at Southwest Tennesee Community College.

Maria was a year behind us at Harding, so she graduated a year later.  She moved to Dallas and had her beautiful heart broken, but was lucky enough to get a super-dooper cute kiddo out of the deal.  Her Aidan is finishing up preschool and will be a big kindergartener next year.  Maria is by-far the most glamorous of all of us, and we love to make fun of her for being such a Dallas girl.  Maria lost her mother to cancer about a year before I lost mine to Alzheimers.  We share that loss and our intense love and worry for our fathers.

For this year's trip, we met in Branson and stayed in a beautiful rental home for a nice, long weekend.  This was our first non-hotel weekend, and I think we all loved having our own bedrooms and bathrooms.  We ate, shopped, primped, ate, shopped, laughed.  We share about 18 years of memories, which makes me feel just a tad old.  It is fascinating to me how we can pick up right where we left off, no matter how long it has been between visits. 

Cara and Sara

Andrea and Maria

Our fancy house on the mountain.

Sara and Maria
We kept seeing these four ladies around town.  They made us laugh because this will be us in about thirty more years!

This is Maria dancing to the music in the candy store we visited.
The girls are waiting inside of the tatoo and piercing parlor that we visited.

Sara is getting her upper ear pierced.  Cara did the same thing, but I didn't get a picture of her.

My beautiful, sweet Maria.
My sissies.  The family ties between us are made of so much more than mere genetics!

Friday, October 7, 2011

Fifth Grade Essay

Zach had to write a 100 word essay last night about citizenship.  The prompt was:  "I am a good citizen because..."

This is what my clever 10-year-old came up with.  The boy is such fun. (I left spelling as he wrote it.)

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If you think of Batman, he is a hero of Gotham City.  He protects the innocent, scoops up villains, and always helps the police.  And if you think about it hard, he is a citizen too.  A good citizen is someone who helps the police, doesn’t litter, takes care of their neibors, and doesn’t commit crimes.  I am a good citizen because I don’t loiter or litter.  I don’t cuss either.   Insted, I give money to the homeless.  I respect the elderly.  I take care of my neibors’ cats when they are gone.  I am a good brother.  I make sure that my Boxer puppy, Rosie, doesn’t get into other people’s yards.  I’m not Batman or Superman or Green Lantern, but I am a good citizen.
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This is my boy.  He's a pop culture junkie, and can quote every Star Wars, Harry Potter, Looney Tunes, Batman Brave and the Bold show ever created.  He is also extremely sweet natured and gentle.  He makes me laugh, and he frustrates the crud out of me.  He sleep walks and sleep sings and sleep yells.  He plays the piano beautifully and has an unbelievable capacity for memorizing tunes.  He is the best big brother that I have ever seen, and genuinely loves Alec and looks out for the little scamp.  My sweet Zachary Thomas  Bishop.  He's a keeper!

Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Flyers

We've had a few flying adventures over the past few weeks.  Mike and his band played at the Memphis Airshow two weekends ago.  The boys and I went out to hear Daddy and to see the sights.  It was hot and bright out there, as you can see by the squinty face that Alec is wearing in this picture.
My awesome guys.

Look how huge that plane is.

Boys inside of that big ol' plane.

Freedom

My amazing rock star of a husband.
 We also created a flyer of our own for Alec's first task as a new Cub Scout.  He has really been excited about joining a scouting group.  I don't know much about Scouts, so I've got a pretty steep learning curve.  Thankfully, Mike has some experience, and Alec is LOVING the whole thing.    On Saturday, Alec participated in the Space Derby.  He and Mike made a wooden plane that was propelled by a rubberband propeller.  Alec choose to make it look like a Green Lantern plane.
Painting the plane.


Alec with his pack.

Alec with his spaceship prize.

Alec with the Green Lantern plane.

The finished product.  Alec painted it himself.  Pretty good!

Thursday, September 8, 2011

Frenzy

I'm feeling frenzied today.  I've been in a cleaning frenzy all morning.  I've been in a writing frenzy, but the kind of frenzy where I have the ideas but can't seem to get them into the RIGHT words onto the page.  I've got a frenzy of activity in my life with work and children and church-related things.  I'm also in a frenzy of worry over my dad, whose health is just not at all what I want it to be. 

Dad has to begin dialysis treatments in the near future.  He has a couple of tests to complete first, and then the dialysis will begin.  I am torn over this news.  I absolutely hate the finality of dialysis.  Once he begins, he'll never be able to stop.  It will be a constant part of his life as long as he's living.  This is pretty depressing for him, but it also depresses me because it really means he'll be pretty much stuck in Oklahoma.  There will be no trips here to Tennessee to see us.  That makes me so sad.  He has never seen this home that we've made in Bartlett.  When we moved here in July 2009, Mom was already too sick to travel.  Now she is gone, but Dad is too ill to travel.  I would like to show off my home to my family.  It's really not much, but it's ours and we love it.  It only makes sense that I want to share it with the people I love. 

So the finality of dialysis is the downside, but the upside is that Dad will most likely feel much better when the procedures begin.  He will most likely gain some of the strength he has lost.  I have to admit that having my dad as weak as he is now scares me.  He has always been so strong and healthy.  This change in him has thrown me.

We spent Labor Day weekend with Dad.  The boys enjoyed their time with Poppa Jim even though he can't do many of the things he used to do with them.  They still think he's the best Pop in the world.  I'd have to agree. 

We also visited the cemetary and got our first look at Mom's headstone.  It looks nice.  Classy and pretty, just like she was. If you can see on the headstone, their wedding anniversary was Sept. 2nd.  They would have celebrated 44 years.

Sometimes Mike complains about the busy-ness of our life with two active boys.  His upbringing was a bit different from mine.  My childhood was spent with kids in and out of our home.  Mom always  had enough supper to feed at least one or two more at the table.  We spent as much time at football or basketball games as we did at home.  I did more than half of my homework sitting in the bleachers before a game.  I loved it.  I also had no idea that many mothers would NOT have welcomed so many urchins to their supper tables or have been so willing to be at every single activity.  I want to be that kind of mom.  So even though I sometimes feel FRENZIED with everything going on in our lives, I welcome the crazy.  Sometimes crazy is pretty darn good.


Thursday, September 1, 2011

Fabulous 37

Today is my 37th birthday. This seems somewhat surreal since I still think of myself as a 20-something. I wonder if when I turn 57 that I'll still be surprised by the fact that my body is so much older than my spirit. I hope so!
Today is my 37th birthday. It is also my first birthday on this earth without my mom here with me. I'm thinking about her today. I'm taking my boys to Oklahoma this afternoon for the Labor Day weekend so that we can spend some time with Dad.
Today is my 37th birthday. My children sang to me at breakfast. My husband hugged and kissed me and presented me with perfume and chocolate. I've already received texts and facebook messages and it's only 7:15 a.m. I am truly and completely blessed.
Today is my 37th birthday. God is good and faithful. I'm a full year older. I love my family desperately.
I miss my mom. It's my birthday.

Friday, August 19, 2011

Fragrances and memory: London

I've been enjoying my morning walks this week. The weather is a bit cooler, and the morning air has a hint of fall in it. I like to listen to music when I walk, but I also like to go without the ipod on some days and just t-h-i-n-k. Crazy, I know, but sometimes I feel like my head is going to explode because of all of the noises battling to get inside. It's nice to occasionally just breathe, in...out... and not have SOUND pumping furiously into my ears via those clever little earbuds.
This morning was a music-free walk. There was a dampness to the air this morning, and just a bit of coolness. I could smell the moisture, and then I could smell the exhaust from the school busses, and I was instantly inside of a memory. A memory of my time in London as a college student.
London has a smell to it. It is rain and diesel fuel, perfume and body odor. It is musty air rushing up at you as you enter the tube stations combined with the smell of roasted chestnuts being sold in aluminum foil packets on the street corner by Cockneyed-accented Londoners. It is the smell of vinegar and salt on the freshest fish and chips wrapped in the London Times. London is the damp odor of wet wool. I cannot remember a single thing about my time in London without also remembering the scents.
We lived in The New Atlantic Hotel for the semester, my little group of coeds and me. The hotel was a winding, twisting, layered concoction of several floors with dozens of staircases that often went nowhere. We were not the only college students inhabiting that hotel, but we were the only ones who didn't openly smoke pot in the hallways. I've never smoked a joint, but I know the sickly sweet smell of pot, and it is London to me.
One of my favorite places in London was Hyde Park, which smells like water, duck poop, and fresh air (always tinged with that scent of diesel exhaust). I'm a small town girl, raised closer to the country than to town, and London occassionally imprisoned me. When that happened, I'd escape to Hyde Park and read, study, and people watch. A piece of soft grass, an old towel to sit on, trees, water, books, and crazy people. There's no better show, no better venue.
London smelled more exciting at night. When the temperature began to drop, the crispness of the air seemed to bring out the scent of cologne on the necks of handsome men. It made the smell of a theatre seem more cultured. It even turned the scent of the tube into excitement. During the day the tube smelled like the people who rode the underground train to work: toast and jam, Earl Gray tea with cream, soap, morning breath. At night, the tube smelled like the people who rode it to play: beer, strong perfume, vomit, popcorn, and something I can only label as Excitement.
I can remember the sight of snowflakes falling on me from a night-darkened sky while I walked back to the hotel after a long day. They were the first snowflakes I'd seen in London, and they were important because it was December and almost time to go back home. Home to Oklahoma, home to Harding in Searcy. The smell of the air that night with the cold scent of snow made me sad. Sad to leave, but also sad because the snow smelled like home...and I missed home.
The fragrance of home, of childhood. Hmmm, maybe next post.
Fragrances and memories. They are all wrapped up together, aren't they?

Sunday, August 14, 2011

From Heaven

I am constantly reminded that my children have such a wonderful, unique view of their world. Last night the boys and I were driving home from Target (our happy place) when Alec asked what Grandmom looks like now that she's in heaven.

Alec tends to ask things at seemingly random times, though if I work hard enough I can usually trace his thoughts back a few minutes or hours or days. For this conversation I didn't have to trace too far. For the past few minutes we'd been discussing the word "amnesia" because he'd heard it somewhere and wanted to know what it meant. After I explained the definition of the word, Alec had said, "So... it's kind of like Grandmom."

Of course, that brought about another round of explanation. So after we discussed the differences between amnesia and Alzheimers, he said, "I'm glad Grandmom is in heaven now because she has all of her memories again. And she remembers us now." At this point I had to open my eyes extra wide to allow the tears to sink back in a bit. Then he said, "So, what does Grandmom look like now that she's in heaven? I think she's young again, but maybe not too young, but definitely not sick and in bed."

Then my sweet Zachary chimed in on this discussion and said, "I think we probably get to choose what we look like when we get to heaven. I mean, maybe it's like picking out toys or clothes, and you get to pick out what you want to look like. That'd be cool."

I said, "Yes, that would be cool. I think I'd pick out the 20 year old me." Alec said, "I bet Grandmom picked out the 20 year old her too. Poppa Jim would like that I think."

Oh, those boys. They are such insightful, wonderful little creatures. They are such blessings. Even when they make me crazy (a daily occurance), I cannot imagine my life without them. My mom thought they were just about the best things ever. I wish they could have had her healthy and whole for much, much longer. I know she's still loving them from heaven.

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Feelings

So today is the third day of school, which means this morning was the third morning of waking up at 6:45. It didn't go so well. Here's the irony. All summer long, on days when no one HAD to be awake by any certain time, Alec-the-stinker was in my room stage-whispering "CAN I WAKE UP NOW?" by 6:30 or 6:45. Every morning. In a super happy mood. Since school has started? Not so much.

This morning while he was eating his happiest breakfast - the one that is almost a surefire guarantee to put a smile on his face -- Frosted Flakes, (I know, I'm a bad mom) he was STILL grumbling and grousing into those sugary flakes of goodness. So I told him, "Alec, time to go change out of those cranky pants and put on some happy ones."

His response? "I'm not wearing any pants. And these are NOT cranky undies." He took a moment to check out the undies in question and then said, "They are CAMO undies."

Feelings. It was a toss up between humored and frustrated, but that is a constant state of being in this household. I'm eternally humorously frustrated by my wacky children.

Monday, August 8, 2011

First Day

Wow. It just doesn't seem possible. I'm the mother of a 5th grader and a 1st grader. How can my little Zachy be 10 years old and in his last year of elementary school?! How can my baby already be in first grade?!

Every year when I take their first day of school pictures they show me their grades by holding up that many fingers. Alec was excited this morning because he got to hold up a 1. Kingergarten and preschool were kind of difficult to illustrate. And this is the customary "show me your backpack" picture. I love to do these because some day Alec will not be that much shorter than his big brother!



Zachary was out of the car and down the sidewalk in a flash. He did NOT want me walking him in today.




Thankfully Alec was completely fine with Mom walking him in and taking pictures. This is his new teacher Mrs. Potts.



And here's my baby ready for his first day of first grade.




Prayers for a year of knowledge, friends, and blessings!

Family Fun Weekend



Last year we began the first annual "Weekend of Fun" before school started back. This past weekend was our second annual family fun weekend. We decided to visit the River Park on Mud Island on Saturday morning.


Riding the monorail was pretty cool. It was neat seeing the Pyramid and the Mississippi Bridge from that viewpoint.




The riverwalk itself was pretty disappointing. It was extremely dirty, mucky, yucky. There was even a dead bird just lying on the concrete beside the "river." Thankfully, the view, the paddleboats, and the museum salvaged the visit.







The boys LOVED the paddleboats.





My boys are getting so big. I cannot believe that Zach is a 5th grader and Alec is already in 1st grade. It's a cliche, but so true that time goes by far too quickly.







My favorite part of the weekend was dinner at the Melting Pot. I always enjoy this dining experience. I mean, HellOOO, chocolate fondue! The boys got excited when the fondue pot started to steam.











Other activities this weekend were Build a Bear (for Alec) and Harry Potter 7.2 (for Zach). We ate great food all weekend, which was fun because we've all been eating very healthy for the past month. The boys were excited about donuts on Saturday morning because it had been ages since I'd allowed that indulgence. I'm getting us back on the healthy eating today, but the weekend's food was certainly fun.


It will be fun to continue this tradition each year. I know the activities will change as our boys grow and develop into young men. I'm sure Build a Bear will not be a "cool" activity for much longer, and I'm not sure how long Harry Potter will be THE obsession for Zach. I just want to cherish each stage of their lives because I know I'll be sending them off to college before I'm ready!

Thursday, August 4, 2011

Father Fright



My dad is scaring me.



He is not doing very well right now. I worry about him constantly, and I deal with guilt for not being closer to home. He's having problems with his kidneys, which is not a new thing, but it is a chronic, debilitating thing. He's in stage 4 renal failure, and since there are only 5 stages and the last one is the "it's time for a transplant or daily dialysis treatments," stage 4 is bad enough. He's also having heart troubles. He's been diagnosed with congestive heart failure, and we've learned that his heart is only pumping about 30% of the blood in his body out of his heart.



This is an interesting fact because his body is chronically anemic. He's currently admitted to the hospital in Pauls Valley getting a blood transfusion because he was at least two units short of blood. They may actually put more than two units in him tonight.



He has an angioplasty scheduled in two weeks. I'm hoping and praying that this procedure will provide us with some solutions to get my dad back on his feet. I need him healthy and strong. He's only 64 years old! Please keep him in your prayers. I can't lose him too.

Monday, July 18, 2011

Fourth of July

This post is a bit belated, but I still wanted to post these pictures. Mike and his group played at Navy Lake in Millington for the Independence Day celebration. It was so incredibly hot that day, and the band was playing on a black, metal surface in full uniform. Yikes! Regardless, he was amazing, as always.

My three guys. How could a girl be THIS lucky?!




Sunday, July 17, 2011

Florida Room...Finished! (though not completely furnished)

Welcome to the finished (though not completely furnished/decorated) Florida Room. Our family has been out of town for the last two weeks, first to church camp and then to Oklahoma. When we returned, we had a completed room instead of a little ol' patio. I am so loving it! I'm trying to get a plan of action for how to furnish it. We want to move the boys' massive LEGO collection out there, so I need to find a cool piece of furniture to hold those toys. We picked up the rust colored chair and side tables at a local antique/consignment store yesterday. The blue chair has been relocated from the living room. My budget is quickly shrinking, so I may have to wait a couple of months to really complete the room. I think I want to find a cool quilt and hang it on the brick side of the room. The bricks are really rough to the touch, and I think a quilt would soften it a bit, plus it might provide some sound absorption. We'll see. I'm also considering completely removing the windows between the living room and the sunroom so that it is an open space there instead of old (ugly) screens. Again...we'll see.



And this is my beautiful wall of windows.

Let me know if you have any suggestions for my room. I really am open to ideas, especially the types of ideas that are budget friendly!

Good F words

Hey! Not all F words are bad. The best words in the world are family, fun, food, and fabulous! I'm challenging myself to expand my own appreciation of the fabulous F words out there. I'm starting a list of words that I'll eventually write about. Let me know if you think of another fun one.



Family ~ Father ~ Fast ~ Fanatic ~ Fanciest ~ Festive ~ Fanciful ~ Freedom ~ Friday ~ Flower ~ Flagrant ~ Fixable ~ Forceful ~ Forbidden ~ Foray ~ Foppish ~ Fledgling ~ Frappacino ... hmmm... maybe ?